— Helping you understand and change your relationship patterns

Individual Relationship
Counselling

Do you feel stuck in your relationship?

Is your partner unwilling to attend couples counselling? Do the same issues keep repeating, no matter how hard you try to resolve them?

You’re not alone – and these patterns can be understood and changed.

With over 20 years’ experience working with couples and relationship difficulties, I now specialise in helping individuals make sense of the patterns they bring into relationships and how those patterns shape what happens between them and others. Many relationship difficulties are not just about what is happening in the present moment. They are shaped by:

Learned ways of relating
Emotional responses that get triggered automatically
Patterns that repeat across time and relationships

In our work together, we slow things down and look at what is happening both within you and between you and others, so you can begin to respond with more awareness and choice.

What issues can I help you with?

Feeling confused about how you feel towards your partner
Trust and jealousy difficulties
Working through an affair and deciding whether to stay or separate
Differences in needs, expectations, or values
Getting caught in repeated arguments or misunderstandings
Understanding feelings such as shame, anger, or withdrawal in relationships
Sexual difficulties, including differences in desire or needs

Deepening selfawareness and improving communication

In relationships, it’s easy to react quickly—especially when emotions are high. You may notice:

Saying things you later regret
Feeling misunderstood or unheard
Getting pulled into the same arguments again and again

Often, these are automatic responses rather than conscious choices. As we work together, you will begin to:

Recognise these patterns as they happen
Understand what drives them
Develop the ability to pause, reflect, and respond differently

This shift can reduce conflict and create more understanding and respect in your relationship.

How can this work help?

This work focuses on increasing your awareness and expanding your choices in how you relate.

Together, we can:

Help you recognise your habitual ways of responding
Understand how past experiences may be influencing present relationships
Support you to step out of unhelpful patterns
Strengthen your ability to respond more thoughtfully and clearly
Develop more balanced and satisfying ways of relating

As you begin to change how you respond, the patterns between you and your partner often begin to change as well.

What if I decide to separate?

Sometimes, greater clarity leads to important decisions about the future of a relationship.

If you do decide to separate, this work can help you:

Make decisions more thoughtfully
Reduce unnecessary conflict
Approach the process with greater awareness and care

Experience & Approach

I bring 20 years of experience working with relationship dynamics.

My work is grounded in a thoughtful and structured approach that helps you:

Understand what is happening beneath the surface
Make sense of your reactions and patterns
Develop greater awareness, clarity, and choice

Alongside my psychotherapy training, I also have a background in law, giving me a practical understanding of the wider challenges relationships can involve.

How much will will it cost me for couples counselling ? I offer a range of services, tailored to suit individual needs. For further details, please click here

How do we set up an appointment?

Get in touch by phone, text or email. I will get back to you as soon as I can so I can answer your questions and find out more about what you need. We can then set up an assessment session. I offer face to face, phone or Zoom counselling. I can also offer home visits, for nearby clients who have mobility difficulties.

More about counselling?

With 20 years of practical experience I can help you identify what you want to change and support you in creating a happier life.

Who can benefit from counselling?

Individuals
Couples
Parenting
Young Adults
LGBTQ+
Blended Families
Estranged Families

What do we cover?

Self esteem, Confidence, Security
Building on Strengths, Quality of Life Check
Couples Therapy
Anxiety, Stress and Depression
Life Transitions, Future Goals,
Happiness Within Relationships
Sexual Confidence
Non Monogamous Relationships
Step Family Bonding

Happy Clients

Rated 5 out of 5

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